"Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women." ~ (unattributed)
by Kyle Cabral
They played in the morning,
and napped for an afternoon.
Then, they fell in love at dusk,
and walked together until midnight.
Super charming illustration series by an old classmate of mine.
My grandpa has had a beard for 35 years, so I told him about No Shave November and he laughed for a solid two minutes then stopped dry and said, “There’s something wrong about a seasonal beard, never trust a man who only has a beard for one month out of the year.”
And I’m still laughing about it.
Seriously tho. Why *should* she be asked to smile?
Asking a woman to smile is to make her more approachable. It’s to make you feel more comfortable - not her. I, personally, have zero fucks to give about being approachable to strange men on the street. Women are not here to entertain and please random folks.
Asking me to smile is akin to asking me to jump. Um. For what?
There’s this weird responsibility placed on women to be happy and lady-like and pleasant all of the time. It rids us of being able to express our own range of human emotions.
No one is asking for men and women to not interact with each other. That’s silly. This project is asking for women to be interacted with as if they have agency over their own bodies.
Creator of the Stop Telling Women To Smile project responded to a person who thinks women not smiling on demand is proof of the end of the world and division among men and women. (Seriously? WTF.)
Funny…I told my best friend about that person’s comment and she said it is the end of the world and division…for that person. A world shaped by the status quo is a world being shaken by the resistance to this status quo. The amount of hatred and bile I’ve faced since I started speaking out about street harassment has been interesting in that some men genuinely process harming women as necessary to their masculinity and thereby their identity. They think critique and rejection of street harassment is an attack on their identity, which is frightening…
"Asking me to smile is akin to asking me to jump. Um. For what?"
Anti-rape wear. Its almost impervious to knife attacks and tearing/stretching.
The waist and thigh extremities of the garment are cut and tear resistant (the guy in the video cant cut them with industrial scissors) and they cannot be moved more than a few centimetres when locked into place, the forward area in front of the genitals is also reinforced.
Please, for the love of god, even if you cant donate, just spread this idea wherever you can, they need $50,000 to be able to manufacture it and they currently have just over $6,000 with 20 days left.
Go to igg.me/at/AR-Wear to donate and/or view their full info.
PLEASE PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST THE SHIT OUT OF THIS I WANT MY NOTIFICATIONS FILLED WITH LIKES AND REBLOGS OF THIS
And when the nice lady running the seminar got to the protected catagories, there was some confusion over “gender identity.”
I sat there, just staring blankly ahead, as she tried to talk the group around to the facts of…
Apologies in advance for the really serious post, but I think I’ve actually made my point pretty well in the text below and it’d mean a lot to me if you’d read it. Trigger warning for rape and sexual violence.
I want to prove two things:
- Rape is a unique crime not comparable to being robbed or murdered.
- The unique nature of rape makes rape jokes especially heinous.
This post is a sort-of response to a question I got this morning.
Rape is a unique crime.
Rape is not like murder or being robbed, rape is a type of torture - an exceptionally malicious act that has, at its core, no purpose except to inflict exceptional pain on you. It’s an act where the perpetrator not only wants to hurt you in a uniquely personal way, but enjoys the violation. Rape is so much more than just the act of sex - it destroys your bodily and sexual autonomy.
To rape is not merely to deny someone’s will, but to deny them their very personhood. The humiliation and shame experienced by rape victims is completely unique; they experience complete subjugation and the intimate loss of control of their own bodies.
A few weeks ago, I was mugged at gunpoint on North Carolina Ave. in Southeast DC. Now, if I’m ever back there, I’ll be much more apprehensive of my safety than I would’ve been before. This is pretty common - when you experience a violation, the area of the violation no longer feels safe. With rape, the area of violation is your own body.
Jokes about rape are uniquely horrible.
A recent joke that “comedian” Daniel Tosh made about how funny it would be if a girl was raped created a little bit of an internet shitstorm, forcing him to semi-apologize on Twitter. He followed up his apology with this Tweet:
(Personally, I find dead baby jokes a little bit gross.) “How do you get 10 babies into a jar? Blender. How do you get them out? Nachos.” Dead baby jokes, though, operate on in an area entirely removed from reality - nobody who tells that joke is actually contemplating using a baby as hummus, and functionally 0% of people know anyone who’s ever thought about or attempted to eat a pulverized baby.
Compare that to the prevalence of rape in the status quo. It’s estimated that 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Now, if 1 in 3 babies was killed and eaten with tortilla chips, people would think of it not as a joke, but as a horribly serious reality.
Murder jokes are less heinous for a similar reason. The national homicide rate is 4.8 per 100,000 people, meaning that the chance a given person hearing a murder joke will actually be killed is 00.0048%. The chance that you’ll actually trigger a terrible flashback from someone who’s been nearly murdered is damn low.
What really makes the difference between murder jokes and rape jokes, though, is not just the statistics. Murder is something that is taken extremely seriously in our society. Report rates are pretty high, and victims of attempted murder don’t need to worry that they’ll be accused of “asking for it” or being told that what happened to them isn’t a big deal. To be clear, I’m not justifying jokes about homicide.
Jokes about rape serve to make rape less serious. People who enjoy rape jokes commonly want to be told that rape isn’t a big deal, that it’s just sex, and that other people think so, too. A study of unreported acquaintance rapists done by Hinck and Thomas in 1999 found that “These individuals’ propensity to rape was significantly related not only to their acceptance of rape myths and of traditional ideas about male and female sexuality, but also to their belief that male sexual aggression is normal.”
That doesn’t mean that anyone who’s ever laughed at a rape joke is a future rapist. What it does mean is that these jokes provide the ammunition that these people need to justify themselves and think, “Hey, rape is not that big of a deal. It’s funny. Look, they all think so, too.”
Furthermore, the fact that rape isn’t taken seriously or that the blame is attributed to the woman keeps more women from coming forward, seeking justice for themselves, or even from getting counseling. After all, if rape isn’t that big of a deal, and if it was possibly their fault, there’s really no point. Every time a rape victim hears a rape joke, not only can the victim flash back to the rape and relive the experience in excruciating detail, but the victim also has to experience that mindfuck with the invalidation of suffering that comes with the levity of a joke.
To sum up:
- Rape is a type of torture, and rape victims experience severe psychological trauma that goes well beyond the physical damage.
- The prevalence of sexual assault makes it much more likely that either a rapist or a rape victim will hear a given joke about rape.
- Rape jokes perpetuate our society’s fucked up belief that rape isn’t serious.
- Rape jokes empower would-be rapists.
- Rape jokes further harm the victims of rape.
Very well put, especially about the unique nature of rape as opposed to other crimes.
Pay special attention to the “I am a man and I consider myself some sort of feminist.” THIS IS WHY I AM SUSPICIOUS OF MALE FEMINISTS. THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. -Alyssa
god ffffffuuuuck that guy
please can this spread like wildfire?
"EVERYBODY KNOWS I’M A MUTHAFUCKIN MONSTERRR"
fucking unbelievable. I am blown away.
mm. my youngest willingly chose her costume from the “boys’” section of amazon, this year, because all the “girls’” gear was hypersexualized, racist, or both. the thing she chose was a vampire gig, replete with cape, which is completely andro. why not advertise that for “girls”?
capitalism makes no damned sense.
but sexism fucking rules, as does racism.
let them lose their pinche dollars, mm.
I will be writing a sociological research paper about the effects of the lyrics in Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines.
Please reblog this if you are a female who finds the lyrics of this song offensive or upsetting.
The equal post for men can be found here.
hours later i expect this post to have thousands of notes.
This post has 13 times the number of notes the one for men has. Shocker.
Hello Tumblr, I’m Jordan McKinney and I’m an aspiring author. And I’d like to offer to you guys the first two books in my Pretty Killers novel series.
So, What’s It About?
In short: magical girls. Mostly POC ones. (About 4/5 of the team is a WOC). The story tells the tale of Tomika Drake, a 16-year-old demi goddess who is one of the last descendants of a great warrior princess from a lost kingdom in the Bahamas. After Tomika moves to a new city in Michigan, she puts together a team to help her combat dangers that have befallen the metropolis.
In Book 1—Diamonds, (264 pages) Tomika meets the girls and puts the team together to fight giant mutant creatures called anomalies, as well as protect the city from the nefarious doings of a gang of fabulous drug dealers.
In Book 2—Parlour, (640 pages) the girls begin a semester at Hester Prynne High and go through a slew of new adventures told through 21 individual stories. It touches upon social issues such as body image, religion and politics, queer matters, mental health and things of that nature, but for the most part it’s done in a somewhat comedic (but still respectful) way. It was very loosely inspired by Tumblr’s “eccentricity”.
FREE e-versions (and purchase details for physical copies) are available on the website right here.
PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST
This is something that I’ve worked diligently on for about 3 years now, and I really, really want as many people as possible to enjoy it. I’ve been doing this whole thing independently and being a writer is my dream, so it would be a great help if you all could get the word out. If you can’t afford a physical copy, that’s cool, I totally understand. Just please spread the word. Thanks in advance, guys.
It’s Google verified- gender inequality still exists in the world.
Am I the only person who feels like this ad made a deliberate point to pair certain ethnicities to certain categories. (Being a part of church vs being a slave vs being controlled?)